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It’s also like the Facebook effect. For the most part, people post only the best photos, so we only see their best 10%. Yet it’s easy to forget that and compare that to all our photos/experiences even though it’s not apples to apples.

And out of 100 friends, if 5-10 post something cool it’s easy to overlook that the other 90-95 didn’t.

fB is but an example. These effects happen more or less with everything.



The culture in America shames those who post upsetting things or express those feelings. It’s a whole thing where you have to always be happy and “positive”.

I’ve rebelled against this for a long time. I post happy things here and there but since my life isn’t particularly happy, I post the more upsetting things more frequently and express those feelings in real life. I like to think I’m adding balance but I know I’m just being ignored because the culture doesn’t like to hear about suffering.


> The culture in America shames those who post upsetting things or express those feelings.

Yeah, because it’s bloody depressing.

You get what your mind focuses on and if people actively look for depressing topics it’s no wonder they’re all doom and gloom.

That’s why people don’t want to hear it - because it affects your psychology.

I will actively run from people who lead negative lives, that complain about things but never lift a finger to make anything better. I refuse to be sucked into their pits of despair because I know there is good in the world, and I want to be part of that, focus my mind and attention and energy on leaving things slightly better than when I found it.

I will try to help ppl where I can but the truth is a lot of people are lazy and don’t want to change. So I leave them with my thoughts and know that I have done my piece.

I’m not saying this is directly attributable to your experience, simply relaying the way I feel to give you insight into perhaps a different mindset and way of seeing things.


I agree. My opinion now is actually that the more a person posts "happy" photos on Facebook/Instagram, the sadder/unfulfilled they actually are IRL.




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