I have six years of college and a Certificate in GIS. I was one of the top students in my graduating high school class and won a National Merit Scholarship.
I also have a 33 year old son who is the result of failed birth control. I chose to not seek an abortion because I was already married to a man with whom I wanted kids, but I had originally intended to have them later.
I will suggest that most of your coworkers discussing their "carefully planned pregnancies" are people willing to talk about their experiences and/or carefully framing their experiences in a socially acceptable manner. Most people who enjoy conventional success are either fortunate to have lives that fit a certain framework relatively easily or they get good at pretending to fit it and covering up or leaving out the things the people around them wouldn't be comfortable hearing.
Basically, your position is one of "Everything needs to go right in your life all the time or a big fat fuck you from me." And that tends to cause the fabric of society to unravel because most people can't manage to force their life to go right every step of the way all the time. If their lives work, it's because they had some kind of safety net when things did go wrong at some point.
If you are rich enough, you can sometimes pretend this is not the case, but the money itself is a kind of safety net, so it's a BS position for wealthy people to take.
Given how hard it is to get an abortion in some parts of the US and that I was ten weeks along before I learned I was pregnant, it's possible that if I had wanted an abortion, I would have been unable to get it or I would have had to get it illegally and that would have caused complications, as illegal abortions are often performed under unsafe conditions and have something of a tendency to go badly because of it.
People often do not have as much choice as you are more or less flippantly trying to claim they do.
Flamebait and personal attacks will get you banned on HN. You've unfortunately been doing these in other comments as well. Would you mind reviewing https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html and sticking to the intended use of the site? We'd appreciate it.
An adoptee himself, Mars founded his first business, a nonprofit adoption agency, in his parents’ basement in 1991. He turned his own story and passion for bringing families together into American Adoptions
It looks to me like that was founded less than 34 years ago and it would have been 34 years ago this November that I was learning I was ten weeks pregnant. So, no, I probably could not have called 1-800-ADOPTION.
I also have a 33 year old son who is the result of failed birth control. I chose to not seek an abortion because I was already married to a man with whom I wanted kids, but I had originally intended to have them later.
I will suggest that most of your coworkers discussing their "carefully planned pregnancies" are people willing to talk about their experiences and/or carefully framing their experiences in a socially acceptable manner. Most people who enjoy conventional success are either fortunate to have lives that fit a certain framework relatively easily or they get good at pretending to fit it and covering up or leaving out the things the people around them wouldn't be comfortable hearing.
Basically, your position is one of "Everything needs to go right in your life all the time or a big fat fuck you from me." And that tends to cause the fabric of society to unravel because most people can't manage to force their life to go right every step of the way all the time. If their lives work, it's because they had some kind of safety net when things did go wrong at some point.
If you are rich enough, you can sometimes pretend this is not the case, but the money itself is a kind of safety net, so it's a BS position for wealthy people to take.