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I see your point and it's a good one but humor me.

What is there to explain? Why doesn't your wife let you be the person you are?



Of course she does. I don't even know with any certainty that she would dislike my having pictures of exes in my Facebook profile. I don't know that she would want any kind of explanation either.

What I do know is I roll my eyes every time a piece of mail shows up from her old IRA account with her previous married name on it. I know I would be uncomfortable with a bunch of pictures of old boyfriends and an ex husband mixed in with pictures of us and our son on Facebook. I realize she has a past and that's part of who she is now, but I am perfectly happy to leave some of those things in the past. I don't need or want daily reminders. I don't think she does either.

Given my own feelings about the issue, I choose to treat her the way I want to be treated.


Where's the line?

Rating how good your past girlfriends were in bed? Describing how you had the best valentines day with a previous girlfriend, and not with your current wife?

People like to believe they're special. Talking too much about ex-gf/bf's is a recipe for disaster. They can't handle the truth!

Do you tell your wife her ass looks big as well? ;)


> Where's the line?

Wherever you and your wife (partner) deem it to be.


> Where's the line?

Apparently, it's wherever Facebook decides it is.


Why doesn't your wife let you be the person you are?

I don't think you should take a condescending tone toward another man's wife in order to prove your bizarre point of principle.


That would come at the expense of letting her be who she is.




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