i am sorry for your experience. i can relate to a degree. my first thought when reading "given to be taken care of by various family members" was: at least you had family members who cared for you (as in showed you loving care). i didn't even have that. (except for my grandmother who was to far away to see her more than once a year) on the other hand i didn't develop a feeling of abandonment and i came out of the experience with extreme independence and strong self confidence. my brother wasn't so lucky.
however on second reading i had to realize that i can't judge the quality of care that you did get. likely it may have been worse than anything i had to go through. again, i am sorry for that.
the common point though is that we both had something missing when growing up. for me it took decades to understand what what missing and more importantly how that affected me.
but most importantly, neither your nor my experience have anything to do with the experience described in the article. the key difference is that while the children in the article have many caregivers, and possibly spend a lot of time away from their parents, they didn't get any feeling of abandonment from them.
your experience is something entirely different, and rejecting the living arrangements described in the article is the wrong conclusion. that your parents abandoned you had nothing to do with the community you were in. that community didn't make them do that.
my parents couldn't show love because of the experience they had growing up during and right after the second world war, having to flee approaching armies and then living in a destroyed city giving them an experience that is hard to imagine.
in my case, living closer to grandparents and cousins would have made a big difference. i was able to make up for the shortfall by finding a loving and caring partner. my brother needed therapy.
however on second reading i had to realize that i can't judge the quality of care that you did get. likely it may have been worse than anything i had to go through. again, i am sorry for that.
the common point though is that we both had something missing when growing up. for me it took decades to understand what what missing and more importantly how that affected me.
but most importantly, neither your nor my experience have anything to do with the experience described in the article. the key difference is that while the children in the article have many caregivers, and possibly spend a lot of time away from their parents, they didn't get any feeling of abandonment from them.
your experience is something entirely different, and rejecting the living arrangements described in the article is the wrong conclusion. that your parents abandoned you had nothing to do with the community you were in. that community didn't make them do that.
my parents couldn't show love because of the experience they had growing up during and right after the second world war, having to flee approaching armies and then living in a destroyed city giving them an experience that is hard to imagine.
in my case, living closer to grandparents and cousins would have made a big difference. i was able to make up for the shortfall by finding a loving and caring partner. my brother needed therapy.